Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Hope of glory.....

As I sit down to get some work done today, I am distracted and can't begin to 'work'.  My heart has experienced so much these last three weeks and I am just now feeling like I can get to place to begin to process and reflect on all that has happened.  I am still hurting and I am still in so much pain when I think about the loss that so many have experienced these past 2 weeks.  I am grieving the lives of two loved ones and looking forward trying to learn and grow from it.  2 weeks ago, I got a phone call from my husband.  He said Jay, are you sitting down.  My heart sunk and I braced my heart for the words I was about to hear. "Jay, your uncle Dwane died early this morning.  He was hit on his way home from work on his bicycle."  That is all I heard.  All I could think about was my momma and my kids.  My mom and Uncle Dwane are twins.  I got off the phone grabbed my keys and headed out the door to be with my mom and to get my kids from her.....  The rest is a blur.
The days following that phone call for me were tough and still are.  Seeing my mom mourn the loss of her brother and walk through all that happened afterwards is something I will never forget.  I have experienced death before and walked through the sorrow of the death of my Meme and Papa, but this was and is new for me.  So many questions buzz around my head as I think and sift through what God is doing in me.  I ask questions like why did you take him now God?  What was my last conversation with him like?  Did he feel anything?  etc....  Not to mention how I deeply hurt for my cousins as they look forward from this without their earthly daddy anymore.
 The day after we celebrated Uncle Dwane's life and mourned with his kids and with my mom, we get a phone call that my cousin Tyson has died from a massive heart attack.  He is 30, has 2 ten month twin girls, and has a precious wife.  He is my age.  His day started out normal like any other day.  He kissed his wife goodbye, leaned over to kiss his babies, stood up and said his chest was hurting.  Within moments they were calling 911 and he passed away right there.  I can't imagine it.  It doesn't seem real to me because I don't get to see him everyday like his family does......but it slams the breath out of me when I begin to empathize Kristin and the deep loss she is and will experience over the next days, months, years as she parents and raises those babies without their daddy around.  I can't help but think about my situation and how at any moment, it could be me.  It could be a fear driven thought, but I will tell you my hugs, my love, my 'moments' with my husband, my babies, my family have become more than something I do out of routine, but something I cherish and don't take lightly.  All of this doesn't make sense......but a lot of things about this life here don't make sense.  The ONLY thing that makes sense to me right now is God is still God.  He is still on His throne.  He is the creator of Life and the Sustainer of Life.  He gives it freely.  He loves freely and He has experienced grief and loss.  He knows.  He hears our cries of pain and sorrow.  He knows.  He experienced it.

Here is something I came across today in my time with my own creator.  I started searching for scriptures about mourning and sorrow.  I came across this that John Piper wrote.  

--Consider sorrow. Neither Jesus nor the Holy Spirit has ever sinned. But both have grieved. Both have been sorrowful. Therefore, godly sorrow is possible.
Not only that, godly sorrow is possible also for sinners. It is possible precisely because of our sin. One form of sorrow is sorrow for doing something wrong. So Paul writes to the Corinthians:
For even if I made you grieve with my letter, I do not regret it. . . . I rejoice, not because you were grieved, but because you were grieved into repenting. For you felt a godly grief, so that you suffered no loss through us. 10 For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death. (2 Corinthians 7:8-10)
At least two things govern what makes sorrow good. One is the cause, the other is the outcome. The cause of godly sorrow for our own sin is the spiritual perception of its moral ugliness, not just its negative consequences. We see it as morally repugnant. This repugnance is owing to our spiritual preference for the taste of the truth and beauty of God. Therefore our sorrow for sin is rooted in our savoring of God. Sin is a revolting flavor in the feast of godwardness. Therefore, sorrow over this is a signal that we delight in God. That is what makes the sorrow good.
The outcome of good sorrow for sin is repentance and holiness. In fact, repentance includes sorrow for sin and extends it to a more durable experience of holy living. This holy living is the outward form of delighting in God above all sin. Therefore delight in God is what makes the sorrow and repentance good.
But what about sorrow that is not for our own sin, but for the way we are sinned against or the way we are hurt by calamity and loss? Jesus sorrowed like this. For example, when he saw the Pharisees murmuring about his healing on the Sabbath, “He looked around at them with anger, grieved at their hardness of heart” (Mark 3:5). And in the garden of Gethsemane, he said, “My soul is very sorrowful, even to death. Remain here and watch” (Mark 14:34).
Jesus’ sorrow was not owing to his own sin, but to the sins of others. This is the way it is with the Holy Spirit as well. Paul calls us to put sin out of our lives so that we do not grieve the Spirit: “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption” (Ephesians 4:29-30).
In the same way believers embrace godly grief not only for our own sins but for the sins of others and for the pain that loss brings us. For example, Peter speaks of our grieving over trials: “In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, as was necessary, you have been grieved by various trials” (1 Peter 1:6). Paul speaks of our grieving over lost loved ones: “We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope” (1 Thessalonians 4:13). And Paul refers to his own grief over the lostness of his kinsmen: “My conscience bears me witness in the Holy Spirit—that I have great sorrow and unceasing anguish in my heart (Romans 9:1).
Nevertheless Paul makes the astonishing statement in 2 Corinthians 6:10 that what marks his life and should mark ours is “sorrowful, yet always rejoicing.” This is what makes our sorrow godly. I do not claim that this experience is simple or that we can even put it into adequate words—what it means to be joyful in sorrow. Heaving sobs at the loss of a loved one does not look like joy. Indeed is not joy in its fullness, as we will know it when “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away” (Revelation 21:4).
Rather the joy that endures through sorrow is the foretaste of that future joy in God which we hope for in the future. When Jesus was “very sorrowful, even to death” in Gethsemane he was sustained by “the joy that was set before him” (Hebrews 12:2). This does not mean that he felt in the garden or on the cross all that he would feel in the resurrection. But it does mean that he hoped in it and that this hope was an experienced foretaste of that joy.
Therefore, we groan here, waiting for the redemption of our bodies and for the removal of all our sins (Romans 8:23). This groaning and grieving is godly if it is molded by our delight in hope of glory (Romans 5:2-3). The delight is muffled by the pain. But it is there in seed form. It will one day grow into a great vine that yields wine of undiluted delight.
So let us embrace whatever sorrow God appoints for us. Let us not be ashamed of tears. Let the promise that joy comes with the morning (Psalm 30:5) sustain and shape our grief with the power and goodness of God.----



I have a hope of glory.  Enduring through the sorrow of my own sin and through loss is simply the foretaste of that future joy in God which we hope for in eternity with Him.  Sweet Jesus, help me be sorrowful, yet always rejoicing. 


Monday, December 26, 2011

My second love

I love my husband for so many reasons and then I love him just because I do.  Can't put words to it and can't describe it, I just love him.  But one thing I have grown to love so very much about Chris is the way he loves and parents our kids.  He is not only an incredible husband and best friend to me, but he is an AWESOME daddy and loves our babies so fully and sacrificially.  He serves our family and I am so very thankful for the example he sets for our children in the way he pursues Christ.  He disciplines our kids with love.  He loves me in front of them and serves me.  He is a servant leader in our home.  He is a good friend.  He does his job with passion and works hard to provide for us.  He loves playing and doing crazy fun things.  He leads us toward Christ.  He pursues me.  He is a man after God's own heart.  I am so thankful Mary Jane and Caden have a daddy that will live this out in front of them.  How blessed are the children of Chris.  Here he is with his little gifts.







Friday, December 23, 2011

Fun with Daddy!

Daddy and Caden went Christmas shopping today!  They have so much fun together already.  Love my boys.  I am so blessed.






Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Cousin Day!

Today we got to have a cousin day!  Our nieces are staying with another aunt and uncle this week and we went and kidnapped them for a day.  :)  Daddy and Mary Jane went and picked them up early this morning and brought them back to our house for the day.  We had so much fun!  We did Christmas tree art.  We did some fun Christmas activities, made cookies, decorated them, bounced on the bounce house forever, and played played played.  Caden didn't even know what happened to our house with all these girly girls everywhere.  A few times he went off and just started playing by himself just to get away from the shrieks and shrills.  The big surprise of the day was when Mimi and Papaw Searcy surprised the kids at the front door!  They found out they were all going to be together and jumped in the car and headed this way.  They were with us all afternoon and into the night.  We ordered pizza and ate our Christmas cookies that we made.  It was a fun and exhausting day had by all.  Daddy, Mimi, and Mary Jane took the girls back to where they were staying and said bye.  Mary Jane collapsed from having too much fun.  We love you Abby and Emma!











Monday, December 19, 2011

Meme's Christmas Present

We always try to be creative with our grandparent gifts because it is so fun and the kids love it.  This year, we went and made something special for Meme!  Here is what the kids help me do at the local pottery place.  It was a lot of fun and daddy even got in on the fun.......helped me corral the kids.  Merry Christmas Meme!


Sunday, December 18, 2011

Mary Jane and Saige

4 months apart and they are best friends.  These two have the best time and are so sweet and fun with each other.  Never a dull moment!  We got to go to our little cousin's first birthday party and these two had so much fun!





Wednesday, December 14, 2011

 
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